I’ve spent time through the years photographing cemeteries. It may seem like an odd interest, but cemeteries are beautiful places for photography. Green grass, trees and grave stones provide an endless array of interesting compositions for a photographer. And cemeteries are an excellent place to photograph birds, another interest of mine.
But when I’m doing photography in a cemetery I suddenly become aware of just how loud a camera shutter release can be. When everything around me is extremely quiet, the click of the camera shutter seems to roll across the surroundings like the sound of a cannon firing.
That’s the reason I try to stay far away from people when I’m doing photography in a cemetery.
Cemeteries should be very solemn places, but I’m amazed how many people don’t know how to behave when visiting cemeteries. Arlington National Cemetery has placed signs throughout to remind people that the cemetery is a place for silence and respect.
Even with reminder signs there are still people who misbehave.
For instance, there was the woman who posted a photo on Facebook of her yelling while giving “the finger” toward one of the “silence and respect” signs at Arlington. Her employer didn’t find it humorous.
And there was the video that went viral, showing a guard at the Tomb of the Unknowns forcefully chastising people who were talking very loudly in the small amphitheater overlooking the tomb.
This behavior in a cemetery is troubling, but it fits in with the lack of respect for social norms that I see almost daily. It seems as if American society has become less respectful through the years, focusing more on “what I want” than “what is right.”
When I read about the behavior issues in Arlington National Cemetery I immediately thought of my mom and dad. Every year on Memorial Day we would go to the local cemetery to place flowers on graves of relatives, some that I remembered and some that had passed before I was born. My parents stressed the importance of proper behavior in the cemetery: no loud talking or laughing, no running, no sitting/standing/leaning on grave markers or monuments. In other words, show respect. A cemetery is a place of mourning, a place of remembrance, they said. It isn’t a playground.
I’ve never forgotten. Apparently others have … or they never learned in the first place.
If my mother knew about this behavior she’d be spinning in her grave, unless she had already been disturbed by a cemetery visitor talking loud enough to wake the dead.
End of rant.